A little off topic...

But not really... I just started this blog for sexual and reproductive health and info, and already I'm going on a tangent, but at this point, with everything going on, racism is something that seeps in to every aspect of our country. (More on how it affects women's health to come!)

I read this article today, and it's astonishing how not very long ago it was completely legal to have racist policies and discriminate openly. Within just two generations, the conversation has changed so much. But much like when I watch Mad Men and think about the history of sexism, my first thought is usually "but has it really changed, or is it just less overt and still really fucking pervasive." Obviously, the 2016 election answered that question (well, both questions). 

I woke from a dream this morning. I was at my job (I work on a sprawling campus) in a large hall, and Trump and Marco Rubio were there speaking to me and my coworkers. They were saying things that to me were anti-semetic, but to other people would have just sounded like conversation, or even compliments. They would talk to someone else, and point at me and ask this person about my diversity. About how they interact with my 'other-ness.' I screamed at Trump, fully aware I'd probably be tackled by the secret service and ran away, without anyone around me understanding why. I woke up so pissed. 

As a person who has felt this very coded type of discrimination, I understand how every little word, even well meaning ones, can feel like a twist of a knife. Dealing with the overt racism, it's just plain terrifying. 

I am an intersectional feminist. I understand that as hard as I may feel I have it sometimes, other groups have it ten times worse. I will use this project to promote minority voices, and to shed light on issues few talk about. Sex is hard enough to discuss, so imagine how much harder it must be as a black woman who has to fight to be taken seriously by her doctor, a transgender person fighting just to be able to use a bathroom, or someone with a disability, who is largely seen as asexual, and without resources designed for their body.

All this to say, these things are so interconnected, and you can't talk about one without the others. Also, in case you don't know, I'm hugely into systems thinking, which is something everyone should read about because it's fascinatingly simple and yet so underused.

Indignant Dolphin

The term 'indignant dolphin' was bestowed upon me by my loved ones to describe the pitch of my voice at certain times. Usually it's when I'm very emphatic about something, and have no control over how my brain or body reacts. (Occasionally it's because I'm wrong and don't want to admit it, but that is VERY rare).


I am an indignant dolphin though. I read the news every day and every day I'm furious and righteous and frustrated. When I hear rooms of male politicians making decisions for women and ignoring women's voices or when access to healthcare for anyone is denied based on the need to keep women controlled and voiceless I become... Indignant Dolphin! 

It is now my superhero name.

I have been afraid to put my own voice out there for many reasons. Privacy, fear, insecurity. Probably insecurity more than anything. But I've heard so many amazing voices recently, women and men who are fearless, and funny, and doing everything they can to fight for what they believe in and for the soul of the country. So I'm going to start putting my voice out there as well. Sorry if I blow out anyone's eardrums while doing so.

Girls That Never Die

The news about healthcare is horribly unsettling and depressing. It's hard to feel hopeful. Maybe this will help!

A new music video from singer Emily Bell, directed by our good friend, Jessica Miller all about women empowerment and taking to the streets.